Thursday, December 30, 2010

Bereavement Donations

It was very important to us to try to do something positive in Ethan and Tommy's memory for their birthday. We decided that it was most beneficial to "pay forward" the gifts of love and support that we received during the hardest time of this trial (right after the birth and the loss). When I was in the hospital delivering the Boys, I received a huge outpouring of gifts. Most of the gifts came from the hospital. The gifts were a variety of mementos and keepsakes to help us preserve the memory of our sons such as a scrapbook, pictures, picture frames, candles, beanies, blankets, etc. Those precious items have become very special and sacred to me because they remind me of my sweet babies. We decided that we would celebrate the Boys' birthday by making a donation in their honor to help show love and support to other Mothers and families that would have to endure the hardships that we have gone through. I was incredibly blessed to be able to request for donations from our Ward Relief Society, the entire Police Department where I work, and our dear family and friends. We were completely stunned by the outpouring of love and generosity we received on behalf of our sweet babies. Over several months we collected a huge amount of items to donate in loving memory of Ethan and Tommy.

This was a gift basket for the loss of twins

I was also able to make little scrapbooks to give as gifts to the Mother's so that the special moments and information might be able to be preserved in a way that was cute and ready to share.  Each scrapbook contained 5 tags that pulled out to reveal different poems about the loss of a baby.  These poems were my absolute favorites that i have found and helped to share my thoughts and feelings about the loss of my sons.

We are absolutely so grateful to everyone who donated items, money and time to help to make this possible and such a special event in our lives.  I truly hope that the loss of our Sons and our family's sacrifice may be able to bless and benefit others, even if it is in dealing with a tragic loss of their own. Thank you!

1 comment:

  1. Hi Stefani! You and your family did an amazing job on Tommy and Ethan's birthday project! Good job!!

    After experiencing a loss such as us we are then uniquely prepared in knowing what another mom will appreciate at such a time and I think it's great that you used your experience to help others! What an awesome tribute to your sweet little boys!

    I'm not sure if you received one of Lanee's Legacy's boxes either, but if it is patterened after the ones on the Lanee's Legacy blog, it probably was. Although it breaks my heart to hear of anyone experiencing this loss, it is always our intention that the recipient mother will feel the love that we have for them and will know that they are not alone as they walk this road. I hope you felt that in receiving one. If you would ever like to join us at one of our box making nights, please feel free to do so. There are many moms that have also experienced losses and it's a great support group as we work together and give back. We would love to have you and your help!

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